Trauma & The Window of Tolerance

We all have what’s called a Window of Tolerance—a space where our body and mind feel balanced enough to handle life. Inside this window, we can think clearly, connect with others, and manage stress without becoming overwhelmed.

When someone has lived through trauma, that window can get smaller. The nervous system learns to protect itself by going into “survival mode” more quickly. That might look like:

    •    Hyperarousal – feeling anxious, panicky, restless, or easily angered.

    •    Hypoarousal – feeling numb, shut down, disconnected, or exhausted.

Neither state means something is “wrong” with you—they are natural responses your body learned to keep you safe. But over time, they can make everyday stress feel much bigger and harder to manage.

The hopeful part is that your window of tolerance can grow. With gentle practices like grounding, calming breathwork, supportive relationships, and trauma-informed therapy, the nervous system can relearn safety. Slowly, you may find it easier to stay present and connected, even during challenges.

Healing isn’t about never feeling stressed again—it’s about giving yourself more room to breathe, to feel, and to respond instead of react. Your window of tolerance can expand, and with it, your sense of safety and peace.